So the other day, a friend of mine told me a hilarious but annoying story. It was about an incident with her neighbour. The neighbour had a small generator: I pass my neighbour (Nigerians understand this) which he usually uses when the electricity goes off. Apart from the horrible noise, the fumes from the generator were soo bad they could pollute almost the whole compound. My friend complained to her neighbour that the fumes were polluting the air in her house and asked that the generator be moved farther away from her house to which the man replied: I just serviced this generator today and I don’t have any money again (although he had money to buy petrol) unless you will bring money for the lengths of wire needed to move the generator towards the gate.
Sometimes I don’t understand Nigerians. You will see a grown up accusing the brother or relatives of being wicked simply because the relative in question had refused to pay school fees for the grown ups children. The accuser probably has 6 children, receives monthly salary but expects financial support from the relative as he is wealthy after all the Igbos say:”Nwa bu nwa ora” (a child is a child of everyone literally).
Sometimes I wonder if people understand how others struggled to get to where they are because you see those who believe that as children of Abraham, heaven is their birthright. Nigerians don’t want to suffer but we sure want to reap the fruits of someone else’s labour. How comical!!!!
I remember my student days, when one of my friends told me how she’d been pestering her uncle for money and the man stopped picking her calls, she had to take it up as a special prayer point to her pastor who recommended some prayers with fasting. I was amazed. She had paid her school fees and house rent, received monthly allowances so the money from the uncle was just an added bonus but she believed it was her right after all the man was a relative and wealthy so she should get a share of the
national family cake.
Its shocking when one sits down and thinks it through but it has become our daily manner so much so we take some things for granted. I am not saying that relatives shouldn’t help out other relatives or that philanthropy should be forgotten we should understand that the help is a privilege not a right/entitlement and that the helper has a choice: he can definitely say NO