Nobody is indispensable. Everyone is disposable (abeg free my English).
Sounds cliché but its actually quite true. The earlier one realizes this, the earlier one can start making plan B. I remember my secondary school English textbook, there was one comprehension with the title: The Indispensable. The story was about a doctor who worked almost all 24hours each working day and even added so much jara work on weekends that he was hardly home. Each time the wife complained about his neglect of his own family, he always reminded her that he was indispensable, that his dedication to duty has saved many lives and that he was irreplaceable at the hospital. Some years later, the man died and just few weeks after his death, the wife passed by the hospital and it was still the same: patients were still being attended to, it never closed even for some hours, infact it was as if her husband had never been there.
Chei!!!!! He had been disposed.
And this is the fact in life. Everyone can be replaced no matter how good you are or how an organisation is synonymous with your name. Even if you give your last sweat or die working, there is always someone who will fill your empty shoes. Nobody cares if the shoes are a size too small or loose, the most important thing is that the vacancy has been filled.
If you doubt me, ask Tayo Aderinokun (in his grave shaa),he was the Co founder and Managing director of Gtbank for soo many years. But at his death, the company is still vibrant. Another person is now M.D and the truth is that many of their customers didn’t even notice there has been a switch.
Still in doubt, ask the mothers who built their whole world around their kids and husband. They don’t have friends just gossip mates and school-run colleagues. Now the kids are teenagers and do not want to be identified with their moms, they want to express their independence. Others are now adults, have their own clique and do not have much time for their busybody mothers. The mothers will surely testify to their being disposed of as their affections have been replaced by other people’s.
Thomasing still, ask the many Naija sharp girls their time frame with politicians or notable businessmen.
In the office, you will see a hardworking employee who is giving his last drop for a company and the next retrenchment, he is out and the company continues. Or someone who works so hard that he becomes hypertensive, next has a stroke and dies, and the organisation continues like he was never there. If he is lucky, his colleagues will be allowed to come for his burial.
In relationships, you see a party doing all their possible best so the other will be happy. They even give up their comfort, some lose their jobs or do not bother pursuing a high end career. Some become the best things that ever happened to their partners. I remember when I was in university, there was this couple everyone envied, they were both in medical fields but the girl’s first year G.p was less than 3.0. The guy helped her in her studies and even asked some of his friends in her dept (as they weren’t in the same department) to help her out. By her final year, she was hitting a 4.2 g.p.a while the guy had already failed some exams. Lo and behold, after graduation the lady called it quits and Baam!!! He was disposed.
When we understand that we can always be replaced at any time, we become more careful in our relationships with people, how much stress we condone at our workplaces and the sacrifices we choose to make. Because it doesn’t matter if our replacement is David Moyes, if he is an idiot, if he is brilliant or actually quite Steve Jobs -the endpoint is that there was an “Mmm to the left to the left” – that you were dispensed, and that is all that matters.
Irreplaceable – Beyoncé