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Suarez bites again. And it isn’t funny. No, seriously, it’s not. Stop laughing!

Serial biter Luis Suarez of Uruguay took a hunk out of Italian defender Giorgio Chiellini’s shoulder in today’s 1-0 win over the Azzurri.

With FIFA certain to review the incident, it appears that Suarez may have bitten off more than he can chew.

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Being male and the boss gives you no pastoral rights over your female colleagues/employees

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Soo the other day a friend of mine called me ranting. It was her first day at work and as she introduced herself to her unit head, the man started shaking his head, looked her over, patted her on the back and said “my dear, I don’t like how you are dressed”. She looked at herself again to be sure that the plain office trousers and a full button up shirt with the pair of shoe she put on that morning hadn’t been mutated into something else. Then the man said “I don’t like ladies who wear trousers therefore go back home, change your clothes and then, come back to work”. Then,  he turned and walked away.

She was livid and stood confused until another colleague (a lady who had worked about 2 years already) called her aside and advised her to go home and change, as she was on training and would be graded at the end for qualities like ability to take corrections.  She explained that the man was vindictive and would surely hold her back or give her a low grade which would lead to her repeating the training now without pay.

Now this kind of story fuels my anger because they happen everyday and we let them slide. This is the same reason why ladies don’t get key positions in organisations because the menfolk decide and agree that religiously, the woman is below the man therefore the president should be male while the vice is female (in essence the men get all the important positions while the women get those ‘name-only’ ones).

What was my friend’s boss’s business with her trouser, that place wasn’t his church premises.  He doesn’t think women should wear trousers because it’s sinful– that’s his personal and religious belief. It has nothing to do with the way a female worker does her work, her rapport her with the clientele and her co-workers, the suggestions and positive changes she makes to an organisation.

I’ve heard stories of ladies being advised and preached to, privately and for over an hour because their male bosses feel they are want to become “career women”. Or is it the cases of being passed over for a promotion because they’ve decided that a married woman should put more time into her home.

Or is it when your male colleagues give somehow pitying looks because you always eat at the canteen in the office as they believe that a virtous woman should cook her meals (according to their holy book).

Or when you are transfered to that boring department in your organisation where workers never make it to the top inorder that you may have quality family time without being asked your input and expected to thank your oga for the favour.

I will stop here for now………

She was here and still is

Screenshot_2014-06-15-08-20-46-1There’s this particular song that has been going on and on in my mind since I heard the news today

 

wanna leave my footprints on the sands  of time

Know there was something that, and something that I left behind

when I leave this world, I’ll leave no regrets

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Leave something to remember, so they won’t forget

I was here

I lived, I loved………….

And I must confess,  Chioma,  you left your footprint.  It doesn’t have to be concrete but it is those qualities that are hard to find: abundant love, resilience in the face of adversity and the ability to find something to smile about, to live for even in the darkest moments of our lives

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Your life here although short is an inspiration,  a motivation and your standards something to aspire to.

I will miss your easy smiles, your unquenchable thirst for music, truthfulness(even if it hurts at the time), your avoidance of conflict (although it doesn’t mean you will allow yourself to be walked over), your carefree lackadaisical approach to life, your steadfastness in your beliefs without imposing them on others and your ability to be there for people when it really matters.

The last part of the song goes:

“I just want them to know

That I gave my all,   did my best

Brought  someone to happiness

Left t

his world a little better just because

I was here……

And Chioma, you were really here.

I just pray your mum can find consolation from the fact that you’re now free of pain. Also, that your siblings and dad can be comforted.

And we, your friends can take your advice in the lyrics of the song ‘I hope you dance’:

“That we will never take a single breath for granted,

Never settle for the path of least resistance

Livin’ might mean takin’ chances but they’re worth takin’,…………………

You will forever remain in our hearts and every chubby cheeked baby will always be an absolute reminder.

R.I.P.

Adieu dear

 

 

Songs:

I was here………..    Beyoncé

I hope you dance………Lee Ann Womack

 

Dedicated to my friend & sister Okoyeugha Chioma who passed away on Saturday morning,  14/06/2014.

Nothing is ever cast in SToNe or is it?

When something is ‘cast in stone’ it is fixed and cannot be altered, so it means changes cannot be made. But is anything ever cast in stone?

Just wondering out loud becuz I’ve been checking and I’m wondering if the Bible sef is cast in stone. (Now no offense christians) but the laws in the old and new testament differ. Afterall, if we are going by the rules of the old testament, you wouldn’t even be allowed inside the temple (sorry i forgot, we call it church now).

Even the Almighty US of A with their wonderful and heart-endearing slogan “we don’t negotiate with terrorists” and now Bowe Berghadl was exchanged for five top taliban officials who had been held prisoners for more than 10 years. And just now, America has realised that they do not pose a threat to national security. Also, Bowe is now labelled a POW (prisoner of war).

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You’re wondering where this argument is leading. I will tell you. The only thing i have seen that looks to be cast in stone is the way  African women are treated as 2nd class citizens.  Now I know its the women themselves who are going to take up arms to attack me now but its painful that we’ve been soo marginalised we regard it as normal.

I don’t understand how it is traditional/African/Christian motherly/whatever bullshit you decide to call it for a woman to do the house chores while the man watches tv but completely barbaric to live in a hut or have clay plates and pots. How come our Africanness moved to ceramic plates which are western by the way but remained behind on the issue of house chores?  How come our Africanness moved ahead in the area of men making their wives work and sharing in the family’s financial responsibility but is still lagging behind in the area of men sharing in the food responsibility?

Nowadays women are expected to work but their jobs should be chosen with due consideration for how it affects their family (I personally think its imperative the couple consider this, only that the men are not expected to consider their families in their job quest and the ones that do, are labelled homely and award-winners as if they are a different specie from Mars), women are expected to be wise and at the same time,  obey (no the word is submit to) their husbands that includes standing by him even when his wrong decisions are affecting her negatively.

The era when the man was a protector of his household has disappeared,  this is the time of the thinkers and believe me, we have refused to change, no, budge from our stance since 1960. The strongest is no longer the tallest nor the man with the biggest biceps or practically non-existant neck. The strongest is the one with enough functioning brain cells and those are equally distributed amongst the sexes.

And that is my point,  that nothing is cast in stone except the traditional views we have of women and their roles in the society.  When I say ‘We’, I mean both men and women, you and I, and that doesn’t fit into the laws of universe.